November 16th, 2007 by Aaron from FullTiltMarriage.com · Be First to Comment
Are you wondering why your lover feels so far away? Do you just not feel close any more? This happens at different times throughout the life of a relationship. First and foremost, this needs to be seen as a reminder, a wake-up call to get back on track. If you let this go on for too long, you will find yourself living as roommates, with no real intimacy between you.
Steps to Feel Close Again
Start Talking. I don’t mean daily chit chat. I mean real conversation about your hopes and dreams. Where do you want your life to go? Who are you now at this point in your life? What do you want to accomplish?
Spend Quality Time. Couples need to spend at least 10 hours per week connecting. I know that seems like a lot because everyone has jobs and kids, etc. BUT if you want a great marriage, find the time. Put the kids to bed early, get a babysitter for the night. Find some time for love.
Touch Your Sweetheart. Showing physical affection (holding hands, rubbing her back, etc) releases something in your body called oxytocin. Oxytocin is the bonding chemical. It makes you feel close to another person.
A healthy relationship needs to be nurtured. It needs to be given time and attention. When your relationship becomes your priority, just look at how great your life can be.
Terri is author of The Passion Blog and helps singles and couples
learn the skills to create and maintain loving, passionate
relationships with an intense sexual connection through her relationship coaching.
November 14th, 2007 by Aaron from FullTiltMarriage.com · 4 Comments
Everyone fantasizes. You do. I do. Your partner does. The thing about fantasies is knowing when it is safe to act them out and when they should just stay in your mind.
Women aren’t always comfortable with having fantasies. As a woman, you are often taught that thinking about sex is wrong and that “good girls” don’t want sex. This can be very confusing to women. It can also make it difficult to share your thoughts with your husband.
It is completely normal and natural for both men and women to fantasize about sex.
Some common fantasies are:
Having sex in public. If this is one of your fantasies, you need to be careful. You need to be aware that you can be arrested for public sex.
Having a threesome. This is a very common male fantasy. If both partners are open to it and neither one is the jealous type, it could work. BUT I want you to be aware that it can cause serious damage to a relationship. Women worry that their husband will want the other woman more than he wants her. Women also worry that the other woman’s body is better or that she is a better lover. If there are any insecurities, this isn’t a good idea.
Same sex fantasies. Same sex fantasies are very normal for both men and women. You may think about what it would feel like, how you would do it, etc. This doesn’t mean that you have any gender identity issues, it just means you are curious.
All in all, fantasies are normal. They are part of a healthy, happy sexual relationship. Feel free to share your fantasies with your partner and maybe they will come true.
Terri is author of The Passion Blog and helps singles and couples
learn the skills to create and maintain loving, passionate
relationships with an intense sexual connection through her relationship coaching.
