Relationship Help: Questions You Should Ask

Questions healthy people discuss when new, significant relationships form

Are we spiritually, financially, psychologically, and emotionally, sufficiently suited to each other?
Do our long-held, individual, long-term, personal goals and personal dreams somewhat fit with each other?
What do we each imagine is possible for us to achieve (service to the poor, overseas travel, learning foreign languages, learning new skills) within this relationship and potential marriage?
How do we each perceive our individual and mutual responsibilities to our parents and extended families if we marry?
Which of us is better with money? If we marry, how will we organize our money? Will we keep everything separate or will we pool all our resources? How will we decide what we buy, how we buy, and when we buy expensive, but necessary items needed by a new family? Which professional will we choose to help us with the wise use of our resources? [Do not enter a relationship with someone who is in excessive debt.]
What does each of us think about religious observance? How will we decide on where and how we will worship?
What help do you need from me in order that you may achieve all you have ever wanted to achieve with your life?

Rod Smith has taught family therapy and courses on related topics for various institutions, primarily The University of the Nations, in many locations around the world. His “YOU AND ME” newspaper column is widely enjoyed in South Africa where it has been published daily for almost to 7 years.

So valued are Rod Smith’s methods of intervention that high-profile, highly conflicted families have flown him half the way around the world to assist in finding some manner of resolution to seemingly insurmountable dilemmas.

Rod writes the Difficult Relationship Blog and is available to help you with your own difficult relationship issues. You can reach Rod via email Rod@DifficultRelationships.com OR “RodeSmithMSMFT” on SKYPE.

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