I think that one of the most important elements of a relationship is being able to believe in your partner. You need to have faith in him.
I Need To Believe:
- That you are a good man.
- That you will never intentionally hurt me.
- That you have integrity.
- That I can believe what you say.
- That I can trust you.
Without these things, you will always be second-guessing yourself. You will be waiting for the other shoe to drop. You will be watching for signs that he is lying and cheating. This would be the demise of the relationship.
If you are to have a healthy, happy love, you need to be secure. You need to be comfortable with someone. If you aren’t secure in the relationship, you need to examine what the reason is.
- Has he/she given you reasons to mistrust? (lying, cheating, sneaking around)
- Or is it emotional baggage being carried over from other relationships?
If you have reasons to not believe in your partner because of past experiences with him/her, then it is time to re-evaluate the relationship. Is the relationship right for you anymore? Is the mistrust hurting you so much that you can’t forgive and that you can’t move on? You can get help to rebuild the relationship if both partners are ready and willing.
If the mistrust is only in you and your partner hasn’t done anything to deserve this, then you need to work it out on your own. They are your issues. You need to realize that you won’t have a healthy relationship until you release the baggage from the past. Get a great coach or therapist and watch how your relationships thrive.
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learn the skills to create and maintain loving, passionate
relationships with an intense sexual connection through her
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